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I found this book in a second hand shop in 2003 (approx.) - it was marked down from $51.99 to $11.99 - what a deal! - i read some of it then lost interest - life was busy and i did not have time to read much. Last month, when i was struggling with my health (or lack of!), my brother-in-law said: "I've found a new book, Emotional Intelligence, go to the library and get it and read Chapter 11..." i replied that it sounded familiar, so i searched my bookshelves, and there it was, burried under papers and magazines... so i have started reading it (again); i think it is worthy of a post, so here is a brief excerpt:
p.ix Aristotle's Challenge - "Anyone can become angry - that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way - that is not easy" - Aristotle, The Nicomacbean Ethics
"It was an unbearably steamy August afternoon in New York City, the kind of sweaty day that makes people sullen with discomfort. I was heading back to a hotel, and as I stepped onto a bus up Madison Avenue I was startled by the driver, a middle-aged black man with an enthusiastic smile, who welcomed me with a friendly, 'Hi! How are you doing?' as I got on, a greeting he proffered to everyone else who entered as the bus wormed through the thick midtown traffic. Each passenger was as startled as I, and, locked into the morose mood of the day, few returned his greeting.
But as the bus crawled uptown through the gridlock, a slow, rather magical transformation occurred. The driver gave a running monolouge for our benefit, a lively commentary on the passing scene aroundus: there was terrific sale at that store, a wonderful exhibit at this museum, did you hear about the new movie that just opened at that cinema down the block? His delight in the rich possibilities the city offered was infectious. By the time people got off the bus, each in turn had shaken off the sullen shell they had entered with, and when the driver shouted out a 'So long, have a great day!' each gave a smiling response.
The memory of that encounter has stayed with me for close to twenty years. When I rode that Madison Avenue bus, I had just finished my own doctorate in psychology - but there was scant attention paid in the psychology of the day to just how such a transformation could happen. [my comment: Mindell would say that it has everything to do with what happend in "the field"] Psychological science knew little or nothing of the mechanics of emotion. And yet, imaginaing the spreading virus of good feeling that must have rippled through the city, starting from passengers on his bus, I saw that this bus driver was an urban peacemaker of sorts, wizardlike in his power to transmute the sullen irritability that seethed in his passengers, to soften and open their hearts a bit." - Daniel Goleman
and now we have the www.hancockhouse.com streaming bald eagle cam and people are united in their desire to get close to this magnificent gift of nature. (and i have to thank Larry and Willy at JACK-fm for giving me the info. re this site)
HAPPY SPRING EVERYONE!
Isn't life amazing? -- earlier today i forced myself to go for a short walk, inspite of the pain in my legs and hips, knowing that it would either make me feel worse, or with any luck, better ... but instead of going to Dragonfly Bog, i took my shorter, quieter, neighbourhood route as i also wanted to see if there was any activity in the big nest that i had seen a couple of weeks ago. As i rounded the corner at 105th Avenue and 156th Street i saw a young woman loading a guitar into her car, and asked her if she had seen any eagles in the nest. She said she had not and i replied: "A couple of weeks ago i saw one eagle flying around, but have not seen another since, but...." and i told her about the hancockhouse bald eagle site. To my amazement and delight she said: "I know one of the people who have something to do with that site, and saw it myself for the first time yesterday." She said his name is Trevor, so i am going to go to the forum and let Trevor know that i met someone he knows! - WHAT A HOOT! - well, that's all folks, now back to the daily grind of meal prep. etc. luv, pj
13 comments:
you also get the same response when you say good morning to people its unexpected it makes people respond. Its not hard to offer kindness and a smile yet some people have forgotten how. In a society that tells you to be wary it also have removed our courtesy, hope and manners. I hope we never forget ours thanks for the sharing of the story and the reminder of what we are doing right ;)
wow!
so much to comment on!
I agree with what puddlejumper has said.. and if we do remember to share a smile or a word.. who knows.. maybe it will come back and be ordinary again?
I often speak to strangers, say hello or find something to compliment.. amazing how they light up when you do..
and then it lights me up!
Duncan and I took a long walk today too.. around the neighborhood, like you.. my philosphy was much like your own.. it would either help my knees and back.. or not.. and Duncan had a blast!
as for the nest... OMG thank you for that! I have been watching it for days.. and I love it!
you are very very welcome!
cheers once again
I love Eagles and Hawks. They are my animal guides. :) Thanks for the link to the cam.
Australian Shepherd? They are gorgeous dogs.. often blue eyed..
Love seeing you at my blog.. would be great if we could do our neighborhood walking together!
huts etc ( tee heee )
buddhist blogger: i'm glad you are enjoying the eagle line!
hey there mckait:
yes, this one is blue eyed, i thought it was a miniature Belgian Shepherd, she is so sweet and wants to be with me all the time, i nearly took her home with me but Kitty would not like that! lol
and yes again, it would be wonderful to walk with you, well, when i get my "sea legs" back, i can wander off to the east coast again. [ you make me chuckle]
cheers,
pj
Hey, this is "James" or Buddhist Blogger from "The Buddhist BLog."
This profile is for my personal blog. It's mostly about the odds and ends of my ho hum life. As well as my day to day dealings, rantings and whining surrounding living with schizoaffecitve disorder.
Sorry for the mix up. :)
Don't you think it's fitting though for a schizo to have more then one blog? Was just thinking about that right now and thought I'd share that.
Anyway, see here I go again on one of my rambling rants!! Now it's off to sleep I go. :)
Be well.
three of the kids from school were in hospital on friday..
one.. a teeny little girl
( cannot remember her dx, but it causes the girls to be very small.. )anyway.. she had a temp of 107ยบ
another preschoold girl with no dx except neuro impairment.. had a series of seizures on wed. I held her til her mom came for her and took her directly to childrens hosp. She was not eating or drinking at last word.. and on IV's..
another girl autistic and with diabetes was also in..
most likely they will all be back in school today.. i have known parents from our school to pick a child up from hospita.. and take them directly to school..
many, many of our kids are sent no matter how ill they are..it gets them out of the house..
i will update as i can.. but.. to be honest.. unless they are in hospital.. they are in school no matter how sick..
( for the most part)
we have 125 kids and two nurses.. two of the kids come with their own nurse in tow..
you just have to ingore that.. keep your eyes and heart open and your fingers crossed..
a little boy in one room passed in his sleep a few months ago..
I can't remember a year when we do not lose a child..
the year before it was two little girls..
Hope you are feeling better my friend!
alan
Do Bald Eagles swoop people when nesting ? We have Magpies and "willy wagtails" that swoop us here in Spring...but I'd imagine an eagly could take half your cranium off !
DD; i'm checking out Willy Wagtails
don't know about the eagles swooping...maybe they do?
wow, Kath, sounds like you have a really challenging job...
Willy wagtails are much loved down here.
They get aggro at nesting time but couldn't hurt a flea.
Sorry, but I have no idea what their actual ID is...suffice it to say they are harmless little fellows ;-)
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